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What do successful Thai/Farang relationships do that the failures don’t

It’s no secret that many relationships between Farang men and Thai women fail. Some fail before marriage and some fail soon after marriage. Are the causes of these failures the same as same culture relationships or is there something between East and West cultures that causes the problem.

And more important is…what do the successful relationships between Farang men and Thai women do different?

My recent post on Thailand Musings I talk about this very subject and ask the question of the readers there with some very interesting responses.

Here is the post:

http://thailandmusings.thaivisa.com/what-do-successful-thai-and-farang-relationships-do-differently-from-the-ones-that-fail/#comments

When I read the comments on that post which are largely from a Farang male perspective I see that communication does play a very big part in either the success or break down of intercultural relationships between a Thai woman and a Western man. As I said in the article I also read on a recent website in Thailand that this was the cause of close to 50% of all marriage failures between Thai and West.

I know that when I talk with many Thai women about the prospect of a relationship with a Farang male one of their biggest worries is exactly that…”Communication”. It is clear that we can say in these intercultural relationships that the language is always going to be an issue. I only have to look at my own relationship to confirm that and I would say that we have a very good level of communication, but we still have misunderstandings due to language.

So it is no surprise then that if a couple not only have a language obstacle but also do not have such a good desire or knowledge to communicate with each other the problems can be much larger and potentially cause eventual break down of the relationship. My guess with this is that both parties will be left confused and angry and without a very clear understanding of what actually happened.

Another thing I found interesting from many comments is that the age gap between the Thai women and many of the Farang who commented was quite high. I have always thought that a larger age gap has more potential for problems and for many reasons. This is only my opinion of course.

So what we can learn from this is that it is very important to focus on communication in any relationship but maybe it is even more important in Intercultural relationships with different languages, like Thai women and Farang men. The question is then what exactly does it take.

What I notice is that many of the comments from those who say they have a successful relationship express a very profound love for each other. They also seem to have have a willingness to learn not just about the other person but about culture, themselves and life.

I will write more on this subject in future posts to try and give some very real and useful advice on what you can use in these relationships to make them successful.

Here is the post at Thailand Musings again:

http://thailandmusings.thaivisa.com/what-do-successful-thai-and-farang-relationships-do-differently-from-the-ones-that-fail/#comments

Sawasdee for now


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Chinese New Year 2011 in Thailand

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Thailand is one of many great places in Asia to be for Chinese New Year and as Thai Girlfriend Advisor I would like to share just a little atmosphere of Chinese tradition in Thailand


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“ซินเจียยู่อี่ ซินนี้ฮวดใช้  万事如意 新年发财”

มีโชคลาภ ร่ำรวย เงินทอง   สุขภาพแข็งแรงสมบูรณ์สวยงาม
จิตใจสดชื่นแจ่มใส   การงานเจริญก้าวหน้ามั่นคง
มีคนรักและอุปถัมป์ค้ำชูมากมาย ทุกสิ่งเป็นไปดั่งใจสมปารถนา

祝:春 节 快 乐,

万 事 如 意 ,恭 喜 发 财!

身 体 健 康,合 家 欢 乐!



As a Thai women with Chinese background my family and I still follow Chinese tradition. I just love Chinese New Year because it always remind me when i was a little girl and all children would  be excited and looking for   “Ung Pow” or “Hóng Bāo”  from our parents and relatives.  ”Ung Pow ” means in English a Chinese red envelope with money placed inside, it can be around 80, 800 or 8,000 Bath  for good luck,because money used with number  8  has the meaning of  prosperity and wealth to children in the family who are not yet earning money regardless of their age.



This year I am so happy to be in Thailand with my family and give “Ung Pow” for good luck to my children,niece ,nephew and my parents and I can’t wait for the festivals to begin. One thing I think important to Intercultural couples is to share their culture together so they can get a better understanding of each other. Thailand and Bangkok in particular has a high population of Chinese with Phuket being the second and many Thai have at least some Chinese Heritage.

Some  history about Chinese New Year in Thailand is that it dates back many Centuries to when the Chinese settled in this part of the country bringing with them merchandise of precious goods such as fine porcelain, silk and Chinese tea.Today’s Chinese communities have continued their age-old traditions, customs, and rich culture that were followed by their ancestors and here in Thailand we are very lucky to be able to witness and share in the beauty of these customs.

In Thailand, Chinese New Year celebrations are held over four days. During this time, there are many activities that remind us of the rich cultural, historical and artistic culture of the Chinese such as the Golden Dragon Processions and Lion dances.

So that is a small slice of Chinese New Year in Thailand perhaps if you are in Thailand you will enjoy them yourself and if you are thinking of visiting this is always a lovely time to visit Thailand.



เทศกาลตรุษจีน- Chinese Festival Program in Thailand
ททท. จัดงานเทศกาลตรุษจีนยิ่งใหญ่ใน 10 พื้นที่หลักทั่วประเทศ พร้อมเตรียมการแสดงทางวัฒนธรรม จากสาธารณรัฐประชาชนจีน ร่วมในเทศกาลตรุษจีนไชน่าทาวน์ ปี 2554 เฉลิมฉลองวโรกาสมหามงคลพระบาทสมเด็จพระเจ้าอยู่หัวฯ ทรงเจริญพระชนมายุ 84 พรรษา

งานเทศกาลตรุษจีนไชน่าทาวน์ในปีนี้ ททท. จัดขึ้นรวม 10 พื้นที่หลักทั่วประเทศ ประกอบด้วย


1. เทศกาลตรุษจีนไชน่าทาวน์เยาวราช (3 กุมภาพันธ์ 2554)

Yaowarat Chinatown Bkk  3 Feb  2011


2.“ตรุษจีนสุพรรณบุรี มหัศจรรย์ 3 ปี มังกรสวรรค์”  (3 – 7 กุมภาพันธ์ 2554)

Suphanburi City 3-7  Feb 2011


3.ตรุษจีนกรุงเก่าอยุธยามหามงคล (4 – 8 กุมภาพันธ์ 2554)

Ayutthaya City 4-8 Feb 2011

4.เทศกาลตรุษจีนเมืองพัทยา (3 – 5 กุมภาพันธ์ 2554)

Pattaya 3-5 Feb 2011

5.ราชบุรีไชน่าทาวน์ 2011 (2 – 6 กุมภาพันธ์ 2554)

Ratchaburi City 2-6 Feb 2011


6. งานไชน่าทาวน์เมืองเชียงใหม่ ครั้งที่ 9 (4 – 6 กุมภาพันธ์ 2554)

Chiang Mai Chainatown  4-6 Feb 2011


7.ตรุษจีนนครสวรรค์ เฉลิมหล้ามหาราชัน 84 พรรษา (27 มกราคม – 4 กุมภาพันธ์ 2554)

Nakhon Sawan City  27 Jan -4 Feb 2011


8.ตรุษจีนโคราช 54 “มหัศจรรย์…เซี่ยงไฮ้” (3 – 5 กุมภาพันธ์ 2554)

Korat City 3-5 Feb 2011


9.เทศกาลตรุษจีนหาดใหญ่ (3 – 5 กุมภาพันธ์ 2554)

Hat Yai City 3-5 Feb 2011


10.เทศกาลตรุษจีน – ย้อนอดีตเมืองภูเก็ต ครั้งที่ 12 (8 – 10 กุมภาพันธ์ 2554)

Phuket City 8-10 Feb 2011




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