‘She’s a good Thailand girl‘ is something you hear a lot…
The title of this post makes me laugh I must be honest. Why? because it is a phrase you hear many Farang using..I think sometimes to try and persuade people the Thailand girl they have on their arm is not a bar girl. But you know sometimes I actually wonder who they are really trying to persuade..sorry if that sound’s to hard and direct but I feel it’s the truth…jing!.
So good Thailand girls where are they?
Well to make you laugh I was recently in Pattaya! I had not been there for many years after the last seminar at Jomtien and so was curious to have a look now that I am writing this blog. I also wanted to take Dean there so he could witness it first hand for himself also.
So do I really need to explain anything here about Pattaya? Well let me tell you that Dean made the remark..” How can anyone be confused about the girls here”.. I had to laugh at that. It does amaze me how many stories I hear about Farang men who get involved with the girls there and then wonder why they end up in the mess they do….as Dean said…What was it they were confused about exactly?
Needless to say then that you will have a hard time finding any Good Thailand girl there. But look I am not saying don’t go there..just be clear on what to expect and don’t be stupid!! To them you are business and they will tell you whatever you want to hear and this is far different from “Greng Jai”.
No the truth is if you want to find Good Thai girls then you will have to get into the real Thai lifestyle. You see good Thailand girls will be in the same places that Good Western girls will be in your own countries..normal life, work, supermarkets, shopping malls and restaurants and normal everyday places like that.
Just think about where you are and what type of Thai girl you should expect to find there!
Recently I was in one of my favorite restaurants in Bangkok..Pathe restaurant. Now here is a place where normal Thai people go…you do get the occasional Farang as well as there was that night. Sitting at a table was a Farang man around early 30′s with a girl about the same age…so perfect not too much age gap for a start. The girl I could tell was a Good Thailand Girl. Certainly from Bangkok because you can tell from her style..skin tone, clothes, body language…and these are the real pointers that tell you what type of girl you are dealing with. Not the high heeled short skirt and heavy make up you so often see on the arms of Farang. She was a Good Thai Girl but not easy to get to meet which is the problem sometimes and I do understand that. You have to be creative sometimes is what I can tell you…but just keep it genuine.
The thing is Good Thai girls dont always have any thoughts about Farang men. They dont really know too much about Farang and western culture like that. This was confirmed to me last year when I was on a Thai package tour to vietnam. Out of the 30 people on that tour there was around 7 or 8 single Thai girls..all around the 30 age bracket and all normal good Thailand girls. Sadly though I can’t help wondering if the fact they do not look like the girls you see in Pattaya makes them less attractive to Farang.
What good Thai girls worry about with Farang is communication
I got a chance to talk to them and find out what they think about Western men and why they are still single because I can say they are all good looking and some very pretty…what they told me was they do not really think about Farang as a boyfriend but are not against it either but what they worry about is communication. How to talk is what they all seem to be concerned with as many of them don’t speak good English. This is interesting because we all know how important communication is in any relationship.
So here is a problem because most Farang don’t speak Thai…at least not more than a few words and so this is one reason why it is not easy to get to know a good Thailand girl. One thing I do like to recommend to western men who are thinking of finding a Thai Girlfriend is to learn to speak a little bit of Thai…just ‘nid noi’….you will be surprised how impressed thai’s will be with that.
So to find a good Thailand girl….just mix into real Thai culture and lifestyle and give the all night Pattaya bars a miss for a while.
Chok Dee for now
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Jimmy says:
April 2, 2011 at 4:45 am (UTC 0 )
This is a good article. but this lady is an accountant with a university degree and has a day job and two kids. I have been stunned to find that she is a complete 180 degrees from the conservative ‘shy’ as she calls herself Thai lady. How do you explain that.
Angella says:
April 2, 2011 at 5:34 am (UTC 0 )
Hi Jimmy, thankyou for your comment and question. If I understand what you mean correctly what I think is this sound like a personality issue more than a Thai, although I do not know all details so cannot tell for sure. A good Thai girl from good family with good job and life can still have difficulty to control emotion and ego and this also does not matter if you are Thai or Farang. Her problem may be something deeper in subconscious, maybe from childhood or something and her reactions come out in certain ways to certain things.
All the best,
Angella
Jimmy says:
May 24, 2011 at 3:18 am (UTC 0 )
Hi Angella,
That is exactly what happened. She later told me about ongoing child abuse in her life, including a sister who had a serious accident as a lttle girl and she was foreced to care for her sister all of her life. We finally we seperate ways. her self esteem is just so low and she is really a sweet lady. I wished her the best.
Angella says:
June 1, 2011 at 8:08 am (UTC 0 )
Yes Jimmy, this is often the sad story we hear about ka, Angella
toby says:
April 2, 2011 at 10:02 am (UTC 0 )
Keep up the good work!
toby says:
April 4, 2011 at 8:17 pm (UTC 0 )
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Angella says:
April 11, 2011 at 1:48 pm (UTC 0 )
Ok Toby, no problem I will allow this link to your site, Please your work sincere and Chok Dee. Angella
Omar Zaid, M.D. says:
April 25, 2011 at 6:43 am (UTC 0 )
Hello Angella et alia.,
I once worked in Bangkok near the Sukumvit flesh markets, and on occasion, I’d sit for a drink and listen to some oldies and a lady bar. On one of these sorties, a good looking thai bar girl approached me and offered a complete service, upon which I replied (based on prior experience) that I was not a “Buffalo” … whereupon she was shocked and then said “How you know about Buffalo?” After a brief explanation, she then said: “… when you sit here, what you expect us to think.” and then went on another hunting expidition.
The moral of the story is exactly what Angella is talking about; it is next to impossible to buy anything but trouble when you get hooked up with bar-girls — even if they are there against their will. They are damaged goods. You get what you pay for, and yes, love cannot be maintained without sustenance and that takes work and money; so don’t go gettin all BS romantic on me.
Yours,
dr o
Mike says:
May 14, 2011 at 6:42 am (UTC 0 )
very true and genuine advice for a western man looking for good type of thai ladies. Excellent article.
bob says:
May 21, 2011 at 11:41 pm (UTC 0 )
Are you all being unfair?. Many ‘good’ Thai girls work in bars out of pure economic necessity. I am sure that had these girls been given the opportunities that farang girls get, then 99% would not be anywhere near the bars they now work in.
Many of the girls who find themselves in that position are still good girls, and still deserve an opportunity in life. They have suffered enough knocks through lack of education, povery etc. To write them all off as bad, or not ‘good’ is most unfair.
However, I would also have to acknowledge that this is not the case with all girls. Some are simply awful, however you look at it. But then that is the case in Europe, USA, Australia, .. all over the world
Angella says:
June 1, 2011 at 8:06 am (UTC 0 )
Sawasdee ka Bob, thankyou for you comment and yes what you say is true…Thankyou for sharing, Angella
Jimmy says:
May 24, 2011 at 3:23 am (UTC 0 )
Hey doc,
Good for you. You got it my man! As we say at home ‘if you don’t want to get burned, stay out of the ktichen’…BTW what is a Buffalo? I know what a butterfly is but this is first time for me to hear that expression.
Jimmy
Jimmy says:
May 24, 2011 at 3:26 am (UTC 0 )
The only one thing I disagree with you about is I do not believe they are ‘damaged goods’ although I understand why you say that and I do not take an issue with you.
I think they are victims of economic and political turmoil and as such find themselves in a position where choices are fewer than opportunities. God bless them all.
Geoff says:
September 4, 2011 at 3:47 am (UTC 0 )
My first Thai wife came from Pattaya….the second from Makro. Need I say more. lol
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