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Remarriage after divorce between Thai women and Western

My perspective on remarriage after divorce between Thai women and Western men

Recently I wrote an article with Dean about remarriage after divorce which I feel is a very important subject for many reasons.  Of course it is something I am familiar with in my own relationship but also with other people I know and also clients that I advise. The main point I believe is pertinent between Western men and Thai women who enter marriage after divorce is how people often try to make their new partner fit the void left by their old partner. This is especially true of older Western men who have a tendency to marry younger Thai women and have an expectation that they will fit perfectly into their existing life in a new country. When I say this I don’t wish to be judgmental or point the finger, it is simply that I have seen this many times and would love to provide some perspective on this issue in the hope of helping others and if you have read other posts on this site you will know that even though I am a Thai woman I always try to give honest and open perspectives from both sides. With the case of Thai women it is often because they can appear quite subservient in nature and indeed our culture has a strong desire to please and serve as well as a respect for our elders which is quite appealing to older Western men who perhaps feel that Western women have lost their sense of femininity through the push for equal rights. The danger I see here is one of control and expectation meaning that a Western man may feel because he is bringing a younger Thai woman to live in his country and in many cases giving her a better standard of living he will feel he is in charge and that she must fit into his existing life, perhaps filling the gap left by his previous wife…but without the hassle of course!

This is sometimes sadly at the expense of taking the view of creating a new life together!

Additionally, cultural differences and communication difficulties because of language can make this situation worse because of misunderstandings and the frustration of not being able to communicate effectively the wants and needs of both sides. But I feel that many Western men would in fact be quite willing to listen and adapt if things can be communicated to them effectively and Thai women happy to accommodate their mans needs if they knew exactly what was expected of them fairly because I actually feel they are a good mix.

Often our strengths can be our weakness and our weaknesses our strength if only we can recognize the difference.

As I said I do see a positive side to  relationships between Western men and Thai women and that is in fact the mix and balance between the two cultures is very good. Especially I have noticed between Australian men and Thai women because the lifestyle attitude of Australian men seems to fit very neatly with the culture attitude of Thai women. What I mean by this is that the Australian lifestyle is very much one of community, racial harmony, classless society, food and family connection and this fits very well with a Thai woman’s background and culture of family closeness and the desire to serve especially of course with food which is always the primary Thai way of giving and sharing. So what I believe is that for remarriage after divorce between Western men and Thai women taking the view of creating a new life together and clear understanding of both wants and needs are essential.

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  1. JPThailand

    I find your blog interesting and unique. It isn’t often that I read a Thai woman’s perspective. I’ve lived in Thailand for several years and known many foreign men with Thai wives or girlfriends. My first instinct was to be skeptical and cynical about these relationships. However, when I started to get to know different couples, I found that many of them had found true love and that the men had taken time to learn about the woman’s culture. A few of them had even learned to speak and read Thai. This is not to say that every relationship is rosy. I have met men that went through the process of divorcing a Thai national, lost everything, and then remarried only to have the same thing happen. I agree when you say to remarry for emotionally healthy reasons and make an effort to be on the same page.

    • Make a strong stnmteeat about the effects of divorce on children, or on society’s attitude toward marriage.For example: The prevalence of divorce in modern society damages our children’s emotional development.Today’s society has a poor attitude toward marriage because of the prevalence of divorce.Divorce is so common today due to [insert something].

  2. jim

    I have an ex girtlfriend. Very sweet. She was merried to an englishman and had a child. When she went home for visiting her family, he never replied her phone calls anymore. And he kept her son, and didnt allow her to get in touch, and didnt make invitations so she come back to england.

    She asked me if I can find out how she can divorced to this englishman, becoz she have found a new boyfriend.

    I didnt know how you do this in Thailand. Does anyone kknows about this?
    I will be happy if I can help my ex gf with this.


    PS I have new GF now and will merry soon.

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